Robert Frederick Abbott

Robert Fredrick Abbott born November 20, 1962, and died September 18, 2023, with his adoptive family holding him.

My dear Robert,

You were so adored by your many friends whom you reciprocally adopted as Family. I love that you celebrated every day, announcing the day each morning with a, “It’s Friday, whew! We made it to Friday” and “I Love My Fridays! And even “It’s Monday, it’s a workday. We Made It!” Your enthusiastic announcement of each day always brought joy to those around you.

You worked at Valentinos for 18 years and had so much fun interacting with your co-workers and customers. Veronica helped you be your best self at work. You started your days with “go-go juice” and you loved that red wagon she drove. I know she and Valentinos were sad to see you retire in February 2023.

Robert, you were the sweetest man. I admired you for not putting up with mean people. If you saw someone being mean in person or on television, your emphatic pronouncements of, “Sleezebag!” or, “He’s UGGGGLEEEE!” always made me giggle. You had no time for bullies, and I know you had already faced many bullies in your young years of life. Instead of becoming mean, you were kind, sensitive and caring.

You enjoyed your independence and in December of 2002 you moved into your new extended family home with your “Dar Dar.” You flourished with full access to your environment. I loved that you no longer feared storms or had to be concerned about food. You fully enjoyed your new family complete with your fish, dogs, cats, and humans who loved you. You always had a special bond with your kitties and gave them nicknames, so Freddy became “Bogart”, or “Eddie Spaghetti” and Scrim became “Shrimp” and Tink Tink became “Tinky Stinky.” Your laughter was infectious, and you were known for your Robert-isms. “That’ll get her!” “That’ll wake em up!” “That’ll fix him!” “Paint her red wagon GREEN!” “Wear the seatbelt” “Beep the horn at em.” “Take a SNOOZE in it!” “You Got Me!” “LalaPalooza!” “Stinker” “Squirt- Butt” “Coffee Wafee” and I always got a “Boogity!” at the end of our visits.

You loved Christmas. I know you would have chosen to keep your Christmas tree up year-round and full of lights and ornaments. I especially enjoyed our Christmas shopping trips and that you would start making plans to get your shopping done as soon as Halloween was approaching. You would always say you didn’t know what you were looking for and reply, “not really,” if I suggested an item. Once something caught your attention though, you would immediately light up and request it be placed in the cart. You did such a thoughtful job of searching for just the right thing for everyone on your list and I loved watching you pick out a new Christmas decoration to add to your treasures.

Buddy, there will not be a day I won’t think of you and your zest for life. You brought pure joy to all who knew you. You were loved beyond measure. I smiled each time we told you we loved you and assuredly, you responded, “I know.” Robert, buddy, we adore you and we’ve got you, forever and always in our hearts.

Robert Frederick Abbott is survived by his adoptive family, Darla Wiesel, Helen (Cassidy) Dougherty, Bobbie Jones, Paedyn Harsh, Millie Fitz, Denise Ballard, Dana Wiesel, Harold Thies, Bob and Dawn Holland, Bob Glanz and their families and his friends, Joanne, Naola, Nancy, Veronica, Sonya, Zach, Kristin, Nona, Sharon, Andy, Semira, Chris, Denise and Dave.

A potluck celebration of life will be held on a TBD date.

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